Delegate Your Embarrassment

I like to delegate my embarrassment to other people.

It is inevitable in this world for anyone who is ambitious and thinks in a systems or logical way,

to end up with many open loops in the back of their head.

And what that means is a person has consciously or unconsciously committed themself to some specific task

the act of being overcommitted, which also just means the act of having too many open loops in the back of your head that you’re trying to pay attention to,

is what led me to overthink, to scroll my phone, to avoid in general, to overeat, to not exercise. It is what led me to waste my time and not spend my time on the things that I actually wanted to

one subspace of the open loops that exist in the back of our head are things that we need to delegate. so they’re tasks or responsibilities that we really shouldn’t be spending our time on ’cause they’re just low leverage and they don’t use our specific superpowers

and there are many reasons why we might avoid these specific open loops, the ones that we need to delegate. Sometimes it’s a financial issue, like we don’t wanna spend the money to have someone else do the thing for us, And so we end up doing the thing repeatedly week after week Because we actually can’t afford it or because we feel some sort of guilt about delegating it or we feel some guilt about asking for help, or we know we don’t actually have control over our time and our behavior, so even if we were to delegate it, we probably still wouldn’t spend that time effectively and therefore it becomes a bad cost analysis of oh, I’m gonna spend money, but then I’m gonna waste that time scrolling my phone.

Or the group I’m gonna mention here, sometimes the action we’re not taking is because closing that loop would actually require us to put ourself in a position where we might get embarrassed

An example of this is basically any form of content creation. When I started making videos, I was putting out videos on TikTok daily. I think I would put up like three videos on TikTok daily. And the reason I put them up on TikTok is because I didn’t want to put them up on Instagram because Instagram had a bunch of people I knew, and to put them on Instagram, the platform where people knew me, would put me in a position where I could feel embarrassed, and still do.

when I record these videos and put them up, I still feel embarrassment even if I feel confident about what I’m talking about or what I’m trying to convey

embarrassment still slows me down in the process of creating and publishing content. And so each video that I want to create effectively is an open loop. And if embarrassment plays a role in each one of those open loops being closed, then every single one of them gets slower.

look at this from a task delegation standpoint. when you have a task or an obstacle that is the same task or obstacle repeatedly in a similar process, should you do as a business operator?

You should delegate it. That’s what everyone is starting to do with Claude and ChatGPT. When you have something, it’s some sort of email reminders or calendar reminders or just things that you know that you shouldn’t be spending your time on that someone else or something else can do for you, automate it.

It’s efficient.

But how do you automate or delegate something that isn’t a task, that isn’t something that Claude can run, or you can’t hire off of Fiverr or Upwork, but that consistently blocks you in the same way each time?

One example being embarrassment

and so it might sound funny, but the way that I have done this with embarrassment is I delegate it. I let you, whoever you are, be embarrassed for me. Sometimes I say things on these videos that I go, “God, that was kinda cringey and dumb.”

Or I do something ’cause I’m trying to work on hooks, and I, sit down in the chair, and I’m like, “Ooh, that’s embarrassing. Am I, an influencer now?” Or someone tells me that, “Oh, you should try something in this way because it’s better for viewer retention or because more people will hear your content or whatever.”

And I go, “Ooh, that’s kinda cringey. I don’t really wanna do that.” What I do is I say, “I’m gonna let other people be embarrassed for me.” Because I know for a fact that I’ve probably done or said things in my content where you’ve been like, “Ooh, Flint, that was embarrassing, brother.”

and like I know that’s true. Like I know I can guarantee that people have watched my content and been like, “Wow, ooh, that was kinda cringey, brother.” and that’s okay. But what that means is that you are feeling that. So if you’re gonna feel it, why don’t I just let you feel it and not me?

I know that sounds a bit ridiculous, But if embarrassment is blocking me and someone is gonna feel it regardless, why don’t I just let it be someone else? and so that’s what I’ve done, is when I do something where I’m like, “God, that might be a bit embarrassing.

That might be a bit cringey,” I think, ” I’ll let them feel embarrassed for me.” Same thing with asking for help in scenarios where it feels like, ” Oh, am I gonna seem a bit dumb for asking for help for this thing?”

I think, “let’s let them think I’m dumb for this thing. Let’s let them feel embarrassed for me asking this question.” Because the reality is if I ask the question, I’m far more likely to get to the answer faster than if I just sit in the shadows and try to work myself to it.

Hard work is still important, But I want to exert hard work on the things that matter, not on the things where I can get an easy, simple answer. and so when I ask for help or when I post things up on the internet that are with the intent of sharing or demonstrating some message that I think is important or valuable, if those actions are gonna lead to some sort of embarrassment, I think, “I’m going to delegate my embarrassment to them because I know that this action is important, and someone’s gonna get embarrassed by this.

maybe it just shouldn’t be me. Maybe they can be embarrassed for me

Anyways, I’m Flint Mitchell from iAlign. I went from a life of procrastination, overthinking, distraction, and doom scrolling to a life of authenticity, freedom, and action.

by doing things like what I just talked about, delegating out my embarrassment so that I can continue to take action regardless.

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Peace.